The Obedience of God's Children

There are words that seem to have aged poorly. Just saying them is enough to stir up a certain unease. «Sacrifice,» «chastity,» «sin»… and also «obedience.» For many, obeying means giving up one’s own freedom, letting someone else think for us, or resigning ourselves to carrying out someone else’s will.

It is not surprising that this is the case. Throughout history, there has been no shortage of examples of authority being exercised abusively, nor of people who, in the name of obedience, have ended up justifying arbitrary decisions. Even today, both within and outside the Church, we continue to ask ourselves what it really means to obey and what its limits are.

Jesus' Obedience

But perhaps the problem isn't obedience. Perhaps the problem is that we have forgotten how Jesus Christ obeyed. Because there is one fact that is truly baffling: The freest man who ever lived was also the most obedient. And that seems like a contradiction.

How can obedience coexist with freedom? Shouldn’t it be exactly the opposite? Perhaps we’ve been asking ourselves the wrong question for too long. When we think about obedience, we usually ask ourselves: Why should I obey? The Gospel, however, begins much earlier: the real question isn’t why we should obey, but whom we obey. And that changes absolutely everything.

Jesus never speaks of his obedience as if he were bearing a burden. Nor does he speak of it as if he were simply following orders. His entire life revolves around a relationship. A relationship so deep that he goes so far as to say, «My food is to do the will of the one who sent me…» (John 4:34). Or again, «The one who sent me is with me; he has not left me alone, for I always do what pleases him» (John 8:29).

There is one detail that is easily overlooked. Every time Jesus speaks of obeying God’s will, he also speaks of the Father. He never presents God as a master from whom one must defend oneself. Never as someone who limits one’s freedom. Always as a Father whom he knows, loves, and trusts completely. The entire difference between Christian obedience and any other form of obedience may lie, perhaps, in that single word: Father. Christ does not obey because He has a master. He obeys because He has a Father. And that difference is not merely a nuance. It is the very heart of Christianity.

Because we are children

Through Baptism, we, too, have received that same sonship. We are not merely creatures striving to keep commandments. We are children called to share in the same relationship that Jesus Christ has with the Father. That is why our obedience cannot be based on fear, but rather on trust.

Perhaps it’s worth pausing for a moment. When I think of God, what image first comes to mind? Is it that of a Father who wants to guide my life toward its fullest potential? Or is it that of someone who is constantly asking for things, making demands, or restricting my freedom? The answer to this question completely changes the way we understand obedience. 

Monsignor Fernando Ocáriz, a prelate of Opus Dei, expresses this in a phrase as simple as it is illuminating: «Only God is worthy of obedience, because only He fully knows the path that leads each of us to happiness.» It’s worth savoring this slowly. He isn’t saying that God is worthy of obedience simply because He has authority. He’s saying something much deeper: that only He fully knows the path that leads to our happiness. And here a crucial idea emerges. God does not ask for obedience because He needs to be obeyed. He asks it of us because He loves us.

To obey, to trust

Only the One who created us also knows the purpose for which we were created. Only He knows that path—and we might even say, that «path within the path»—through which each person attains the fulfillment for which they were intended from all eternity. For this reason, perhaps many of our struggles to obey do not stem from a lack of generosity. Perhaps they stem from something much deeper. What if, deep down, we still haven’t fully come to believe that God wants our happiness?

Because only when that certainty takes root in the heart does something surprising happen: obedience ceases to feel like a threat and begins to resemble, more and more, an act of trust.

But what does it really mean to trust?

We often think of trust as a feeling. However, in everyday life we discover that it is much more than that. To trust is to decide to place one’s own life, at least in some respect, in the hands of another.

We do it all the time: a patient who accepts the treatment recommended by their doctor. A student who allows their teacher to instruct them. A mountaineer who listens to their guide’s instructions. None of them experience that trust as a loss of freedom. On the contrary, it is precisely because they trust that they can reach a place they would have had a hard time reaching on their own.

Something similar happens with God, though infinitely more profound. Let’s imagine a child walking hand-in-hand with his father along a mountain trail. At a certain point, the father says, “Don’t go that way!” The child might think his freedom is being taken away. However, the reality is quite different: the father has simply spotted a cliff that the child cannot yet see.

Perhaps Christian obedience resembles this scene much more than we imagine. Obedience does not mean walking with our eyes closed. It means walking hand in hand with the Father. It does not mean giving up our own intelligence, but rather humbly accepting that there is a broader perspective than our own. A perspective that can see what we cannot yet see.

We’ve all had similar experiences. How many times have we discovered, only as the years have passed, that what at first seemed like a loss ended up becoming one of the greatest blessings of our lives? How many times have we realized too late that God was saving us from a precipice we were unable to see at the time? Perhaps that is why Christian obedience can never be separated from trust. 

God guides us through mediators

But this immediately raises a new question. If only God is worthy of obedience, why has He chosen to continually make use of human mediators? Why doesn't He just speak directly?

The entire history of salvation seems to be built precisely on this logic. God calls Abraham to bless a people. He uses Moses to free Israel. He sends the prophets to remind the people of His covenant. He chooses Mary to bring His Son into the world. He entrusts the Apostles with the mission of proclaiming the Gospel. And He continues to do so today through the Church. It might seem strange. If God is omnipotent, why does He need mediators? The answer is simple: He doesn’t need them—He wants them.

Because this is how He has chosen to teach us that salvation is never experienced in isolation. God created us for communion, and that is precisely why He often comes to meet us through other people. However, it is important to make a crucial clarification here. The mediator never takes God’s place. He merely helps us discover Him.

All authentically Christian mediation possesses admirable transparency. That is to say: it does not draw attention to itself, but to the One from whom it proceeds. That is why Jesus Christ is the perfect Mediator. He did not come to replace the Father. He came to reveal Him. His entire life consists of leading us to the Father. «Whoever has seen me has seen the Father» (John 14:9). And perhaps no scene in the Gospel expresses this truth better than the wedding at Cana. There, Mary offers a single instruction. And that single phrase is enough to sum up the entire spirituality of Christian mediation: «Do whatever he tells you» (John 2:5). It is hard to imagine a more beautiful definition of what it means to be a mediator. Mary does not draw attention to herself. She does not take the place of Christ. She does not occupy His place. She simply leads us to Him. 

Every Christian leader should be able to recognize themselves in these words—a father, a mother, a priest, a bishop, the Pope, a catechist, a teacher, a friend. And you and me, too. Because perhaps, as we read this list, we were thinking only of other people. However, we, too, are constantly acting as mediators in small ways: every time we give sincere advice to a friend; every time we guide a child; every time we explain the faith; every time we carry out our apostolate… In all those moments, we become, in a way, mediators. And then the question is no longer: «Whom should I obey?». The question becomes much more challenging: When someone approaches me, do they end up listening more closely to my voice… or to the voice of Christ? 

Because that is the difference between authority and authoritarianism. Authoritarianism is self-centered. True authority steps aside so that God may be revealed. Any authentically Christian mediator could sum up his mission with Mary’s words: «Do whatever he tells you» (John 2:5).

Obedience is tested in times of difficulty

At this point, there is still one question left to answer. If obedience stems from trust, and trust stems from knowing that we are children of God, why is it still so often difficult to obey? 

Because being children does not mean that we always understand the Father’s ways. Jesus Christ, too, experienced that darkness. The scene in Gethsemane is, perhaps, the most illuminating passage in the Gospel for understanding Christian obedience: Jesus knows what awaits him. He knows suffering, abandonment, and the cross. And, as a true man, he is not indifferent to it. That is why he prays with moving sincerity: «Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.» These words reveal something deeply human to us: obedience does not consist in ceasing to feel, nor in denying suffering, nor in pretending that everything is easy. Christ does not suppress his human desire to avoid pain, but he immediately adds: «yet not my will, but yours be done» (Luke 22:42). These are not the words of someone who has resigned himself to his fate. They are the words of the Son who, even without fully understanding the reason for this path, continues to trust in the Father’s heart. As we can see: trust does not consist in understanding everything; it consists in knowing in whom we have placed our lives. 

The Letter to the Hebrews expresses this mystery with a surprising phrase: «Although he was a Son, he learned obedience through what he suffered» (Heb 5:8). These words might puzzle us. How can the eternal Son of God «learn» to obey? Not because he was disobedient before, but because obedience is not a theory that can be learned from a book. Obedience is learned only by walking the path of love. Only those who love discover, little by little, that trusting is worth more than controlling. That giving oneself is worth more than clinging. That losing one’s life for love is, mysteriously, to find it.

We, too, learn this way. No one is born knowing how to trust God completely. We’re all learning as we go. We learn when our plans change unexpectedly. When illness strikes our home. When a project fails. When a door closes without us understanding why. When God remains silent… That’s precisely when obedience ceases to be just an idea and becomes a concrete way of loving. 

Perhaps we can all ask ourselves honestly: Do I continue to trust even when I don’t fully understand? Because as long as everything goes according to our wishes, it’s relatively easy to say that we trust in God. True trust emerges when His ways no longer align with our own. And yet, even then, we continue to say, «Father….» That word changes everything. Because a Christian never obeys fate. Never obeys an impersonal force. Never simply obeys a law. A Christian obeys a Father. And that makes all the difference.

Perhaps that is why Saint Paul describes Christ’s obedience as the path to his exaltation: «He humbled himself, becoming obedient to the point of death—even death on a cross. Therefore God exalted him…» (cf. Philippians 2:8–9). The cross was not a failure of obedience. It was its most perfect manifestation. In it we discover that the Father’s will was never to destroy the Son, but to give his love to the whole world. Only after the Resurrection were the disciples able to fully understand that path.

And perhaps we, too, experience something similar. Often, we only understand God’s faithfulness when we look back on our history. Only then do we discover that what once caused us suffering ultimately turned into an immense blessing. That God’s «no» hid a much greater «yes.» That the path we would never have chosen was, in fact, the one we needed to take.

Obedience and Freedom

Perhaps now we can return to the question with which we began this article. How could Jesus Christ have been the freest man and, at the same time, the most obedient?

Because he never saw obedience as a threat to his freedom. He saw it as the most perfect expression of his love for the Father. And we, through Baptism, have received that same calling.

Perhaps the next time the word «obedience» stirs up some resistance within us, we should refrain from immediately asking ourselves what God is asking of us. Maybe there’s a question that comes first—a much more important one. Do I truly trust Him?

For only those who know they are children discover that the Father’s will never conflicts with their happiness. It is, in fact, the path that makes it possible. Ultimately, the obedience of God’s children does not mean giving up their freedom. It means discovering that freedom reaches its fullness when, like Christ, they learn to rest trustingly in the Father’s hands.